It didn’t happen because of one piece of broccoli
One piece of broccoli didn’t change my life — but it showed up every time I did.
We love to talk about transformation as if it happens all at once.
But in truth, real change is made of tiny moments that repeat.
This is one of them.
Beyond the Plateau: Reframing Equilibrium — It helps me still
Understanding the Power of the Pause in a Weight-Loss Journey
🌿 Finding My Power Through the Strategy of Stillness
Equilibrium is where the body rests and the truth begins to speak.
For almost all my life, I couldn’t keep my weight steady.
It was always a rising tide—slow, relentless, and disheartening.
I would lose weight, then gain it back.
Then gain more.
Again and again.
THE TRANSITION IS THE TRANSFORMATION
Where Shadows Begin to Soften
Life happened recently.
Not in a dramatic fall-off-the-cliff kind of way, but enough to pull me off course.
I didn’t go back to who I was, but I also wasn’t my best self.
And now, I’m in that middle space—finding my way back.
I WAS NOT BROKEN, AND I AM NOT FIXED
For years, I carried the emotional weight of weight.
I can tell you what I weighed—or thought I weighed—at nearly every major event in my life. Even during joyful moments, the number was always in the background, always whispering. Especially when I weighed twice what I do now.
Why: My Golden Center for Change
Lifestyle changes can be challenging work as we go through the ups and downs of life. Knowing our reasons for making long-term change is important, especially during challenging times. Our reason(s) for change is often known as our why.
I love Simon Sinek’s Golden Circle, which places the why in the center of action, change, and doing. I have found this way of thinking to be helpful in many areas of my life. I continually think through making and maintaining my lifestyle changes through my why.
I Wanted to Change the Trajectory of My Life
Finding My Golden Center
People often ask why I made the decision to lose weight. At the golden center of it was my health and wellness. For years, I knew what I should be doing, but I didn’t know how to do it and sustain it. Because this is such a hard process, people need to find a why, a golden center for making the change.
My golden center comes into focus most profoundly between 10:00 pm and 6:00 am, when I no longer live in fear about what my choices were doing to me, when I feel freedom from a lifelong conflict around food. I knew nutrition and health facts as well as anyone, if not better than most. But, I could not find a way to act on what I knew.
Eat When Hungry: My Journey into Shadows, Episode 2
Mindset is everything and nothing.
Mindset and the mental processes around my personal changes are shadows of my transformation.
Mindset plays a starring role in every change I have made. Yet, mindset alone would never be enough to succeed in losing half my weight.
Eat When Hungry: Discovering My Golden Circle
Discovering My Trigger Foods, Part II
A couple years into my weight loss, all looked well from the outside. I had lost half my weight; I stabilized at a healthy weight; and I radiated improved wellness.
On paper, my numbers looked comfortable, controlled, and predictable. The patterns looked like successful maintenance.
I had even started to get a few comments about my success in maintaining my weight loss. These unsettled me. I felt like a fraud.
Inwardly, I was flailing on the razor’s edge, about to tumble off into a chasm all too eager to devour me back into the 97% failure rate.
I knew this space intimately. Looming failure always won. I clung to the sharp edge of success, barely making it day-by-day. I was missing something, but I did not know what.
Then, I came into a direct standoff with what I did not yet understand: Eat When Hungry.