Beyond the Plateau: Reframing Equilibrium — It helps me still
Understanding the Power of the Pause in a Weight-Loss Journey
🌿 Finding My Power Through the Strategy of Stillness
Equilibrium is where the body rests and the truth begins to speak.
For almost all my life, I couldn’t keep my weight steady.
It was always a rising tide—slow, relentless, and disheartening.
I would lose weight, then gain it back.
Then gain more.
Again and again.
THE TRANSITION IS THE TRANSFORMATION
Where Shadows Begin to Soften
Life happened recently.
Not in a dramatic fall-off-the-cliff kind of way, but enough to pull me off course.
I didn’t go back to who I was, but I also wasn’t my best self.
And now, I’m in that middle space—finding my way back.
I WAS NOT BROKEN, AND I AM NOT FIXED
For years, I carried the emotional weight of weight.
I can tell you what I weighed—or thought I weighed—at nearly every major event in my life. Even during joyful moments, the number was always in the background, always whispering. Especially when I weighed twice what I do now.
Why: My Golden Center for Change
Lifestyle changes can be challenging work as we go through the ups and downs of life. Knowing our reasons for making long-term change is important, especially during challenging times. Our reason(s) for change is often known as our why.
I love Simon Sinek’s Golden Circle, which places the why in the center of action, change, and doing. I have found this way of thinking to be helpful in many areas of my life. I continually think through making and maintaining my lifestyle changes through my why.
Choose Health: Fail for Success Series, 1
SHADOW BOXING
Fighting Myself for Myself: Failing Within Boundaries
I am in the middle of several back-to-back travel experiences that make it difficult to keep a health routine. And, I am in the busy season in a new job that I am still learning. This is a recipe for failing grandly.
I have a history of failing grandly in times like this. The details were different, but the feeling was the same. To stay successful, I have had to let some things go and keep my eye on the big things for long-term success. And, I have fallen off my usual game – within boundaries of short-term failures that make long-term successes possible.
I Wanted to Change the Trajectory of My Life
Finding My Golden Center
People often ask why I made the decision to lose weight. At the golden center of it was my health and wellness. For years, I knew what I should be doing, but I didn’t know how to do it and sustain it. Because this is such a hard process, people need to find a why, a golden center for making the change.
My golden center comes into focus most profoundly between 10:00 pm and 6:00 am, when I no longer live in fear about what my choices were doing to me, when I feel freedom from a lifelong conflict around food. I knew nutrition and health facts as well as anyone, if not better than most. But, I could not find a way to act on what I knew.
Eat When Hungry: My Journey into Shadows, Episode 2
Mindset is everything and nothing.
Mindset and the mental processes around my personal changes are shadows of my transformation.
Mindset plays a starring role in every change I have made. Yet, mindset alone would never be enough to succeed in losing half my weight.